Our society is rife with disposable relationships, speed dating, hooking up, divorce. Cheating is the symptom of a larger psychological and spiritual issue. I have raised three sons as a single mother, two of whom are in their twenties and beginning to navigate the world of relationships. People often speak of betrayal in terms of it being a problem with men cheating on women with another woman. Yes, it is true that it does happen but it is the woman who usually “leaves” first.
The worst form of betrayal is when a woman leaves her partner because she does not get along with his inner woman, the “other woman”. Our outer relationships mirror our inner structure. All the women he loves and interacts with are a mirror of his inner world which only he can see. Your perception of them, only speaks of your interior world. Their perception of him is their inner reality. It is “turtles all the way down”. Only true love, soul love, feels the truth of this expansive interconnection.
How deeply can you love? It is the one true and formidable barrier that a woman has to cross. A man’s inner feminine side is both the light and the shadow of the woman that he loves. If the outer woman cannot love and respect the inner aspects of herself that she sees through the man that she is with, she does not love herself wholly and completely. It takes a profound strength, courage, and soul love to stand ground and look deeply into that mirror and love “the other woman” in yourself and as yourself, the inner ones and the outer ones.
When a woman surrenders to the space of a love that vast, it makes her the most irresistable piece of art sculpted by the force of the generative power of existence. She becomes the sacred mystery, the inner light of illumination, the muse of unconditional love, the seductive movement of spiritual growth, and the earthy touch of interbeing. She makes love with the creative essence of her Beloved…a love that embraces and draws in the totality of existence.
The ferocity of that soul love transcends all graven images and leaps beyond the limitations of the corporeal life where even thought and word have no power. Through this inner mutual vision, the many live in the two and the two become One.
It is a woman’s true task in the world to love the opposing forces in herself though whatever medium through which they surface. The worst form of betrayal is spiritual, of the soul by the ego. It takes “it’s complicated” to a whole other level. 🍍
Or maybe I am just overthinking 😉after too much coffee.☕
What do you think?
© M.G. Iannucci 2018
Art: The photo is mine.